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If You Build It, They Will Come
Starting Your Own Moms' Group
By Kate Riener Boyd
lmost everyone's house, almost every month. At some point in each gathering, we talk about the next time and someone offers to host. We bat around ideas for dates, but know that the decision will actually be made in e-mails in the weeks to come. Generally, the host throws out a few dates, and everyone replies with availability. It's up the to host to figure out which date works for the most people: If we can't get more than half, then we won't meet.
Once a date has been decided, the host begins food ideas, and people reply with what they'd like to bring. Ours is a food-loving group, and we tend toward creating a seasonal feast: chips and salsa for June, squash soup for October, a cookie exchange for December. We have ideas about social outings, from a theater trip to a movie night; our next meeting will be at an Indian restaurant.
All our rules and regulations are negotiable. Nothing has been dictated or written in stone; we come to decisions as a group and organically. People miss meetings and new members are invited whenever the mood strikes. All are welcome and discussions are varied and fluid – we have a reputation of getting off-topic very fast. We laugh a lot and tell silly stories. We share family trouble and ask advice from those who are farther ahead. Some of us socialize outside the group, while some we only see once a month. And all of it is OK.
I've discovered a lot in starting this group, and the friendships that have started or been strengthened by it are vitally important to my life. If you too want the camaraderie and support of a moms' group, but don't know where to start, here are a few important lessons I've learned: