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You Can Do It!

10 Secrets to Surviving the First Year with Twins

By Elizabeth Lyons

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, agrees. He says, "Your attitude dictates whether you are living life or life is living you. Attitude determines whether you are on the way or in the way."

And remember, as a general rule, those with positive attitudes enjoy better overall health – a true gift from you to your new bundles of joy. Just when things seem to be at their lowest point, remember: It could always be worse. When I was having a particularly bad hour during the first year with our twins, I would remind myself that there were women in the world juggling sextuplets or more that very second. That usually provided enough clarity to get me through those 60 minutes.

8. Schedule personal time for yourself on a regular basis.
Many mothers begin to feel as if their lives are somewhat one-dimensional. They become convinced they are losing their own identity in the midst of raising their family. It is extremely important to carve out some time for yourself each day. Even if it's only to snuggle into bed at night and read People magazine or a chapter of a book that's been collecting dust on the shelf. Plan to spend time as often as you can with friends in the evenings or on weekends, and plan to do this without your kids when possible. Truly, you cannot take the best care of your family unless you are taking the best care of yourself.

9. Give yourself permission to make "mistakes."
Write this statement down and put it in a spot where you will see it at least once a day:

"During this day, I will do the best I can to b a mother to these children with the information, wisdom and energy I have at this time."

Hours, days or weeks from now there will be no point in looking back and saying, "Oh, if I had known THAT I would have done it differently." Of course you might have, but the bottom line is that you will never be able to go back to that exact point in time – with the information that you now have – and do things differently. You do the best you can with what you have to work with at the time. That's all you can expect of yourself – and that's all your children expect from you.

10. Ignore advice from people whose opinion you don't truly value.

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