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You Can Do It!

10 Secrets to Surviving the First Year with Twins

By Elizabeth Lyons

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Many people are, by nature, simply more independent than others. It seems that mothers of multiples often fall into this category. Therefore, when help is offered, many of these women shy away from accepting help, often feeling as though saying "yes" is the same as admitting (at the top of their lungs) "I can't do this by myself!" Additionally, many women seem to feel that the person who has offered some help surely has a million other things on her own plate and therefore, she shouldn't accept her offer.

I consider myself to be a relatively independent person, so I feel quite comfortable giving you a direct order on this one: ACCEPT HELP! Be sure that the help actually fulfills your definition, however. Having someone else rock and sign to your babies while you cook and clean is often not viewed as "help" by a new mom of multiples.

Accept the offer from anyone willing to bring a meal, clean your house, do some laundry or run an errand. You will have more than enough time sooner than you think to return the favor. Think about it: When you offer to help someone in need, you genuinely want to help. So does everyone volunteering his or her time to you right now. Say thank you and open your door (even if you're in your pajamas)!

3. Realign your expectations.
This is of paramount importance to getting through the first year. Relinquish your need (if you have one) to have your entire house clean and in perfect order all the time. One secret I rely heavily on is scented candles (I prefer thse by Yankee Candle Company). The "Banana Bread" scent will give the impression that you've been cooking all day. "Clean Cotton" will fool visitors into believing you cleaned the whole house just before they arrived. "Lavender" will soothe your mind at the end of a long day.

Also, pick up a copy of Forget Perfect

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