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Opponents or Teammates?
Tackling Sibling Rivalry in Twins By Susan Kohl
Unfortunately, competition between twins has the potential to spill over into everyday activities. Little routine tasks can easily turn into major sporting events where victor takes all. Sometimes it's tough living like that. The good news? Twin competition can be a healthy motivator.
Kevin and Keith Hogan were very competitive growing up, and at age 31, they still are. "We are competitive, but we are competitive in a way that I don't care if he wins. I am happy for him," Kevin says. "If he makes a lot of money more money than me I am happy as can be. And then if he beats me in something, the next time we go out I am going to try extra hard to beat him."
Sometimes competition just happens. Twins find themselves in small towns with small schools and small teams, or they may develop an equal interest in a sport, musical instrument, hobby or pastime. Even as adults, that competition may remain. But with age also comes wisdom. Karen Brown, 32, and her identical twin, Kim Bellnier, were very competitive as children, but as they blossomed into adulthood, their feelings changed. In fact, they tried very hard not to be competitive, especially when it came to special events in their lives.
