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One of Each
Expecting Boy/Girl Twins
By Alexandria Powell
Building expectations for your babies based on stereotypes can lead to frustration for all concerned. How to fight back? Awareness, says Pearlman. "Be aware of the stereotypes," she says. "Once you are aware of them, then you can do something about it."
Also be prepared for lots of comparisons. "There are going to be differences in development, especially between dizygotic twins," says Pearlman. "So parents should be aware that there will be comparisons all the time. One may walk sooner than the other, or one will have language first."
One big problem with twins and other multiples is that parents are often reminded of milestones when one child starts to meet them, says Lyons. "One of your twins starts to recognize shapes," she says. "Then all of a sudden, you're asking the other, 'Do you know what a circle is?' and if they can't identify it, you get concerned. At the end of the day, you have to remember that they are individuals. And that's really hard for outsiders, but also tough for parents as well. Don't treat them as one unit. If you had a son, then a daughter, then a son, born over several years, you'd be OK with them all being different."
Finally, get ready for the tremendous amount of joy that boy/girl twins can bring!
Robinson will never forget the day she learned she was having one of each. "My husband and I found out that 'Baby A' was a boy and tears streamed down both our faces," she says. "I told the ultrasound tech that if he told me 'Baby B' was a girl, I'd kiss him." Sure enough, it was a girl. We were ecstatic and couldn't stop smiling at each other as we left the doctor's office – although, I never did kiss the ultrasound tech."
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