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Bashful Babes
Dealing with a Shy Toddler By Alex Powell
Knowledge is power for shy kids. Help your little one know what to expect from new experiences. Talk to your toddler about what is going to happen, and, if possible, allow her to become familiar with new locations or people in advance.
Also, stay with your shy child when necessary. Dr. Acredolo suggests staying with your child when going into a novel situation such as a birthday party, then gradually increase your distance as he becomes more confident.
Allow extra time for everything. Shy toddlers need an extra helping of patience. Try to ensure they have the time they need to prepare for new activities and to warm up once the activity begins.
Your home environment can go a long way toward helping your shy toddler acclimate, says Dr. Acredolo. Invite guests over. "Having a home environment that's full of 'hustle and bustle' helps kids get used to having strangers around," she says. "If you live in a neighborhood where your child has an opportunity to meet and mingle with many other children and adults, so much the better."
Finally, be positive. "Praising any little steps a child takes to deal with novel situations or people is good," says Dr. Acredolo. Your child is working hard, and that work should be rewarded with positive reinforcement.
"Find where their talents and interests are, then watch them go," says Ray. "There is no 'cure' for shyness, but self-confidence can help shy kids overcome."
