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Gadgets o' Plenty
Does Your Preteen Really Need That Stuff?
By Sue Marquette Poremba
"Teased into believing that perfection is only skin deep, teens lack the cognitive, emotional and social ability to find a comfortable, let alone perfect, self-image," says Lippincott. Owning these high-tech toys is not only a way for kids to fit in with their peers, as many adolescents also find a sense of security and adventure in using them. "These gadgets are constant and nonjudgmental companions," says Lipponcott. However, "this electronic accompaniment has become so ingrained in our lives that we may have underestimated the trade-offs between company and actual human interaction." McGhee agrees. "The gadgets isolate kids from each other. Many do not encourage personal interaction."
Parents must make a difficult call: Do you say yes to something that will help your adolescent feel more comfortable with their peers but could end up isolating your adolescent from real interaction? McGhee advises looking for different avenues when presented with a request to purchase the latest expensive fad. Adolescents don't always know the difference between pure desire and actual need, and parents don't always need to give "yes" or "no" as a definitive answer. However, parents should be willing to explain their reasons for their answer, plus be willing to compromise. This goes both ways. A cell phone may be a need for your adolescent, but don't be afraid to make her explain why she needs a camera phone or an expensive calling plan.
